you need friends - specifically mom friends.

that’s not to say that you can’t have friends that aren’t also moms but you’ll find there are plenty of times you need to turn to other moms for something because friends without babies won’t have an answer (or care). your parents don’t count because what was acceptable when they were raising you is no longer the answer, if it’s even available.  and moms who only have kids 4+ years older than yours don’t count because the combination of what they might tell you to use has been replaced by one much simpler process since they did it.

you need mom friends who have babies close in age to yours. ESPECIALLY if you’re going to be a stay at home mom - if you don’t have adult interaction outside of your husband you will GO CRAZY! a few months into my SAHM job i wanted to squish meatballs in my ears so i didn’t have to hear my own voice anymore.

finding new friends is not easy, it never is after your school years, but as silly as it sounds you can turn to online sites to find local moms - sure there are a TON of crazies on there (as evidence by reading ANY forums) but sometimes there’s an awesome person out there and if you go to a few mom-meetups you just might meet one and you’ll become fast friends, start your own playgroup, start recruiting other awesome moms and suddenly you’ve got this INCREDIBLE network of people you can talk about baby poop with. it’s really cool and i highly recommend it!

i recommend the TheMommiesNetwork.org to find a local group, library storytimes are also GREAT places to meet other moms and make new friends. i know it sounds silly but having other people around you, that are in the same situation, to bounce stuff off of will only make you a better person/momma.